Don’t Have To Read This
Wednesday, May 7th, 2008No one has to read this. And no one needs to care. Just stress
therapy. I’ve been trying to understand people for quite some time now. And for
the past 6 months, I’ve been trying really hard. What are people’s perceptions
of me? What do they expect from me? Am I a good person or a bad person?
Generally I think I’m a good person…but I find it really weird. Somehow, non
Bumis find me nice. Even up here in Melbourne, Aussies think I’m a good person.
It got me thinking, am I really a good person? And of course, my close friends
think I’m good (thanx for appreciating who I am). I try to be on time. I try to
help everyone. I try to think positive of other people. I try to park my car at
places where it wouldn’t cause trouble to others. Try to be environmentally conscious.
Try not to jump queues. Try to follow rules. And a bunch of other tries. Where
am I getting to? I’m not really sure…I told you, you don’t have to read this.
Well, that was just mukaddimah (intro). I’m not trying to
tell people I’m a good person coz I know I can be a big ‘S’. Here’s a big
question that’s been in my head for some time. Am I wrong for ever minding my
own business? Lately, I have been getting involved in all sorts of gossips. People
talking behind me back. I never ever cared til’ it involved the people I care
about. People tend to make assumptions. I guess even at this moment, there’s
all sort of nasty rumors back home about me and my loved one. If it was the ‘old’
me, I’d be swearing all over. But it’s really annoying. I’ve tried not going
dating. I only meet her when there are other people around…I’ve tried my best
to turn over a new leaf. But there are people out there who just can’t keep
their mouth shut. I recently went to Phillips Island to see some penguins and I
saw this woman approaching a guy. She approached the guy nicely and said ‘excuse
me, but you can’t use flash(camera) on the penguins’. I’d like to highlight the
words ‘APPROACHED’ and ‘NICELY’. If you see something wrong, you APPROACH
NICELY and say whats the matter. But back home people will go ‘Tengok dia tu
jahat sungguh. Tak senonoh betul’. And then pass it on to another person ‘Eh,eh..ko
dengar tak mamat tu keluar tengok wayang’…then tambah perisa lagi ‘Dia tengok
wayang pastu pegang tangan si polan’…in the end…’tadi diorang berpelukan’.
And when the guy brings his 2 months old nephew along word will spread that HE
HAS A CHILD OUT OF WEDLOCK!!!!! This is a true scenario, based on a true story
but has been extrapolated.
So next
time you see something…STOP, LOOK AT YOURSELF, THINK. Will you be ruining
somebody’s life? Would you like the same thing happening to you? I never
thought it could happen to me, but it did. And I think its happening again. So,
let’s try to do the right thing. What the Aussie lady did was actually very
good. You see something bad happening, do something about it…tegur. Not talk
about it. Not make assumptions. I went to a lecture at The Northern Hospital
recently and I like what the speaker said…”In the 21st century
nothing is normal. Never make assumptions”…it could kill someone.
